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November 4, 2016

“Stupid Cupid, get your mom off my back”: Cupid, Psyche, and Immortal Love

Armed with a powerful bow and a collection of threatening arrows, Cupid was the Roman god of love who was constantly affecting the emotions of his many fellow gods. Originally the mythology associated with Cupid was from the Greeks. “The god the Romans knew as Cupid was adapted from the Greek god, Eros.”1 On any occasion, whenever one was struck with one of Cupid’s golden arrows one would fall in love with whomever Cupid wanted. However, if one were struck by an arrow made out of lead, one would be repulsed by whoever Cupid decided.

One of the most acknowledged myths about Cupid, written by Apuleius in his Metamorphoses, involved the mortal princess Psyche. There are many other versions of this story, and in most of these Cupid is portrayed to be a passionate lover. “Cupid and Psyche, is … a tale of the quest for divine knowledge and the failings of the human spirit.”2 When Venus, Cupid’s mother, first met Psyche, who was a beautiful young woman, she realized how jealous she was of Psyche, and ordered Cupid to use his arrows to ruin her love life. Venus demanded that Cupid shoot Psyche with an arrow, so that when he strikes Psyche she must be looking “toward a creature so hideous that mortals will be filled with loathing.”3 While Cupid was getting ready to strike her, he became fascinated by her elegance; he lost hold of his arrow and ended up hitting his leg. From this moment forward he did whatever he could to make sure that she would be his forever. Zephyrus, god of the west winds, came as an accomplice to help Cupid. They took her to a grove of trees, which she saw as a superior palace. After entering this lavish but skimpy palace, a voice invited her to eat in what was said to be her new home.4 She received noticed that her supposed morbid lover would be there to meet her at nightfall. The voice declared “I am your husband. I will visit with you every evening but, unfortunately, I must leave before the first sign of morning. Never, ever ask or try to see me!”5

"Psyche" by William-Adolphe Bouguereau | 1894 | Courtesy of Wikimedia Commons
“Psyche” by William-Adolphe Bouguereau | 1894 | Courtesy of Wikimedia Commons

For a while Psyche was satisfied with this platonic love with Cupid, not knowing who he was, but simply believing he was her destined lover.6 Although she became accustomed to this new lifestyle, she found herself missing her family. Cupid, her after-dark lover, granted her permission to have her sisters join her.7 Unfortunately, rather than being grateful to see their sister, they were overly jealous and planted ideas in Psyche’s head to trick her unknown lover.8 “They suggest that her lover is a serpent who changes into the form of a youth at night, a monster who will at last devour her.”9 They told her to have a knife and lamp with her while she was sleeping so that when he came for his nightly visit she would be able to slay him as he sleeps.

Naively, Psyche prepared herself to see a man who she had fallen hopeless for. Ready to strike him, she brought the lamp close enough to see him.10 When she looked at this beautiful young man, she became defenseless. He awoke to see her paralyzed by what she had seen. “With the warning that love cannot live with suspicion, he leaves the palace.”11 Psyche woke up to find that the palace had been dispersed, and she went to search for her forbidden lover. Cupid decided to take his anger out on her sisters by leading them to “the arms of Death to welcome them.”12 While Psyche searched for some answers, she was turned away by everyone, finding herself confronted by Venus. Instead of Venus killing Psyche, she decided that the best thing to do would be to keep her as a slave.13

The Tale of Cupid and Psyche | Courtesy Sonia Cavichiolli
The Tale of Cupid and Psyche | Courtesy Sonia Cavichiolli

In order for Venus not to kill Psyche, she decided to let her live only by having her complete a new task for her everyday. “Psyche’s first task is to sort a huge pile of mixed seeds and grain into separate heaps, with the warning that if there is so much as one seed in the wrong pile she will be punished.”14 Psyche took forever to complete this tedious task; so Cupid decided to intervene, and he demanded a myriad of ants to finish it off for her. For whatever odd reason, she was asked to put together a golden fleece for Venus from all of her sheep. Psyche was frighten to attempt this in the daylight, so she stayed up until all had fallen asleep.15 After having succeeded at that task, Psyche was then challenged to go the river that flowed around the mischievous underworld, to fill up a jug with black water. Cleverly, Cupid came to rescue his mortal princess, and had an eagle fly to get and bring back the water for her. Venus accepted the water but planned that her next task would be to kill Psyche by having her travel to the land of the dead. She was told that she needed to acquire a bit of the dazzling goddess Proserpine in a golden box. Venus made a compromise that if she completed this task, already knowing Psyche would not survive it, she would treat her better in the future. Psyche realized that this task was an impossible one, and despairing, she decided to commit suicide. Before doing this, a voice told her that there was a way for her to complete this unattainable task.16

Believing this voice that had guided her in the past, she attempted to accomplish the task. She followed all the steps she was given.17 Thinking she would be able to obtain whatever remained in the box, she decided to open it. Needless to say, she ended up falling into an unconscious sleep brimming with nightmares.18 Without Cupid coming to her rescue, she could have been trapped in her sleep, tormented, forever.

After having sent Psyche with the box to his mother, Cupid then began to beg with Jupiter for Psyche to be made immortal.19 Jupiter decided to let Psyche join them in this immortal world, once hearing Cupid’s petition. There she drank a cup of ambrosia that Jupiter handed her, and became an immortal goddess.20

It was only then that Cupid and Psyche were able to remain unified for an eternal life together.

  1. Salem Press Encyclopedia, 2016, s.v. “Cupid (Mythology),” by Janine Ungvarsky.
  2. Salem Press Encyclopedia of Literature, 2015, s.v. “Cupid and Psyche,” by T. Fleischmann Mfa.
  3. E. N. Genovese, “Cupid and Psyche,” Masterplots, Fourth Edition, November 2010, 2.
  4. Salem Press Encyclopedia of Literature, 2015, s.v. “Cupid and Psyche,” by T. Fleischmann Mfa.
  5. Rosalie F. Baker “What if the Goddess of Love was your mother-in-law?,” Calliope vol. 23 no. 3 (Nov/Dec 2012): 19.
  6. S. Parker and P. Murgatroyd, “Love Poetry and Apuleius’ ‘Cupid and Psyche,’” The Classical Quarterly 52, no. 1 (2002): 402.
  7. E. N. Genovese, “Cupid and Psyche,” Masterplots, Fourth Edition, November 2010, 2.
  8. Rosalie F. Baker “What if the Goddess of Love was your mother-in-law?,” Calliope vol. 23 no. 3 (Nov/Dec 2012): 20.
  9. E. N. Genovese, “Cupid and Psyche,” Masterplots, Fourth Edition, November 2010, 2.
  10. Salem Press Encyclopedia of Literature, 2015, s.v. “Cupid and Psyche,” by T. Fleischmann Mfa.
  11. E. N. Genovese, “Cupid and Psyche,” Masterplots, Fourth Edition, November 2010, 2.
  12. E. N. Genovese, “Cupid and Psyche,” Masterplots, Fourth Edition, November 2010, 2.
  13. Rosalie F. Baker “What if the Goddess of Love was your mother-in-law?,” Calliope vol. 23 no. 3 (Nov/Dec 2012): 22.
  14. E. N. Genovese, “Cupid and Psyche,” Masterplots, Fourth Edition, November 2010, 2.
  15. Salem Press Encyclopedia of Literature, 2015, s.v. “Cupid and Psyche,” by T. Fleischmann Mfa .
  16. E. N. Genovese, “Cupid and Psyche,” Masterplots, Fourth Edition, November 2010, 2.
  17. E. N. Genovese, “Cupid and Psyche,” Masterplots, Fourth Edition, November 2010, 2.
  18. Salem Press Encyclopedia of Literature, 2015, s.v. “Cupid and Psyche,” by T. Fleischmann Mfa .
  19. Kirsten Hall, “‘It Is All One’: Hetty Sorrel and the Myth of Cupid and Psyche,” Renascence: Essays on Values in Literature 67, no. 4 (Fall 2015): 289.
  20. Salem Press Encyclopedia of Literature, 2015 “Cupid and Psyche,” by T. Fleischmann Mfa.

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  • Elisa Nieves

    I’m genuinely surprised with the depth of the story of Cupid and Psyche. I think that while it’s really sweet, there’s a few things I don’t understand. For example, why didn’t Cupid just reveal himself to Psyche? Was there someone or something stopping him? Either way, I really loved learning that despite everything, this story ended happily. See, this doesn’t happen very often in greek myths, someone always dies or gets cursed so I’m happy that Psyche ended up okay with her lover. I do have to wonder though if anything happened next? Did cupids mother retaliate? I don’t know, but I really like this story!

  • Rinnu Joy

    I loved reading this article. It is well written that it flows smoothly and made me to visualize the story. I had seen these pictures before but I have never heard of the story of Cupid and Psyche. The role played by the jealousy Venus made the story of Cupid and Psyche more thrilling. I am glad that Cupid and Psyche were unified at the end.
    Congratulations for the great work!

  • Stephanie Cerda

    I have never heard the story of Cupid. I’ve always been interested in myths, and reading this was very fascinating. Gods always seemed to be ported differently depending on the myth, and which version you look at. For example, although the Greek and Roman gods are essentially the same, their personalities and attitudes vary. Here, Venus doesn’t seem like the best, and seems driven by jealousy. I’m glad at least the ending of this story is somewhat happy, since she became a goddess. I loved the pictures used in this article! They’re beautiful.

  • Edith Santos Sevilla

    The article is very well written and it gives a great description of the story of Cupid and Psyche. I knew that Cupid was the love god, but I didn’t have any more knowledge besides that. Throughout the article I learned different things about the story including how they were lovers at first. Something that really surprised me was that Psyche was kept as a slave by venus. What I really liked about the story was that even after facing a lot of difficulties in their life, the couple got the ending that they wanted. When we compare cupid to the story that we know today some similarities and differences can be seen, but overall the essence of the story is still there and I think it will continue to be there for many more years.

  • Todd Brauckmiller Jr.

    Interesting how this Greek/Roman myth had a happy ending to it, they got to be together forever. Though it does seem intense for Psyche to complete these nearly impossible challenges just so she can be with her loved one. Cupids mother did want what was best for him and even though he truly loved Psyche his mother still refused to let them be together. I imagine the struggles they must have went through were unimaginable, such much love between the two.Great article and am really starting to enjoy reading all of these very unique and exciting stories.

  • Analisa Cervantes

    This article is a rather interesting version of the Cupid and Psyche love story. It’s very Shakespearean in nature. I find it very sad Psyche had to suffer at the hands of her mother-in-law but overjoyed that the two lovers had a happier ending. One thing I never knew about this myth was that Psyche was a mortal princess. I thought she was a minor goddess.

  • D'Hannah Duran

    I have read some part of the story of Psyche and Cupid before, but they were not nearly as interesting as this one. While reading this story I was hoping for Psyche and Cupid to get the happy ending that they deserved. If it was not for her sisters Cupid and Psyche would have been able to get to be together. This goes to show that your jealously can affect the lives of others, so it’s just better to do things that make you happy and not worry about what others have that you do not.

  • Nelly Perez

    I loved reading this. One time, I was reading a comic that had illustrated this story and the colors made it stand out. Venus, Cupid’s mom, was toxic and treated Psyche very badly. She didn’t like Psyche since she got jealous and Cupid fell in love with her. Cupid hardly used his arrows now that I think about it only because he wanted to hide his wings and his powers.

  • Mia Correa

    This was wild. Hearing the love story between Cupid and Psyche and the jealousy Venus had over her sons lover was extremely thrilling. I felt like I was watching a movie with all the suspense and details in the article. I’m eager to read more into Psyche and Cupids love story. I felt as if this could be a movie about the love story of the angel of love. I think the author did an amazing job with this piece, as I was consistently engaged all the way throughout the article.

  • Juan Arceo

    I remember being fascinated by Greek mythology ever since I was a kid. I would remember watching and reading stories about Zeus, Poseidon, Hades, but I haven’t really read a lot about Cupid. Sure mostly everybody would know that whoever was struck by his arrow, would fall in love with whoever, but by reading the introduction I did not know that somebody could have a negative view on a person by a lead arrow from his as well. It was nice knowing that after all the hardships that were put in the way of Psyche from Cupid’s mother, Venus, that Cupid was there to help lead the way and eventually would fall in love himself, just like he has helped many other people accomplish.

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