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March 29, 2020

Bullying gone Technological: The Tragic Death of Megan Meier

She never got to blow out the fourteen candles in front of her. She never wore that birthday tiara that she was so excited to show off. Most of all, she was never happy with the remaining minutes of her life.

Megan Taylor Meier was born in O’Fallon, Missouri, on November 6, 1992, to Christina “Tina” Meier and Ronald “Ron” Meier. Although she was described as a happy and bubbly girl who enjoyed spending time with her friends and family, life was never easy for young Megan.1 She struggled with weight problems, depression, and attention deficit disorder. When Megan was in third grade, she talked about committing suicide, and ever since then, she had been in the continuous care of a psychiatrist. By the time she reached eighth grade, things got better for Megan. She lost twenty pounds, she was on the volleyball team, and she was in a better mental state. All in all, it was a fresh start for Megan.2

Megan’s life changed when she was introduced to the popular social networking web, Myspace. Back when Facebook was still on the rise, teens were using Myspace as a platform to socialize, post pics, and talk. Some even went as far as opening fake accounts to talk or just have false identities and play pranks on each other. Megan and her friend Sara Drew were no different. Sara was the girl that lived four houses down, and they both were good friends. They opened a fake profile of a girl on My space to talk to boys. When Megan’s mom Tina found out, she was really disappointed by her daughter’s wrongdoings and banned her daughter from using Myspace ever again. And soon Megan had cut ties with her friend Sara and was in a constant on and off friendship.3

Social media refers to Internet-based applications that allow people to create and exchange content using digital network technologies. Over the years, social media has gained a wide audience, mostly teens. Teens are likely to be obsessed with social media because their underdeveloped frontal cortex cannot manage the distraction and temptations that come with social media. A survey showed that 86% of girls within the age of 15-17 have a social media profile, which is higher than that of boys in that same age group. They are primarily drawn to social media for personal connections and the opportunity to share activities with their followers and friends.4

“I’ve raised three kids, and the technology changed a lot from the time my first kid became a teenager to the time my third kid became a teenager,” said Waslick, chief of Child Psychiatry at Baystate Medical Center.5

For better or for worse, social media has had a huge impact on teens. It has made the spread of information much easier and faster. One can learn about people with varied backgrounds, enhance their creativity by sharing musical and artistic projects, collaborate on school projects outside of class, raise money for charity, and so on. However, not everything about social media is positive. Rather, it often comes with negative consequences, replacing face-to-face socialization with plastic screens, hindering teens from developing self-confidence and real-life social skills. Some other negative aspects of social media include cyberbullying, sexting, sleep deprivation, Facebook depression, and poor academic performance.6

Picture of social media icons on phone | Courtesy of Pick Pick

When she was almost fourteen years old, Megan begged her mother for a second chance on Myspace. Tina reluctantly agreed, but her agreement came with rules on how to use it. Megan had to use her computer in the main room with her parents around. Her parents would be the only ones to have the password to her Myspace account, and Megan had to run any friend request acceptance by her parents.7

Not long after she had re-opened her Myspace account, she received a friend request from a boy named Josh Evans. Evans claimed to be from Florida and had recently moved to O’Fallon. He told Megan that he played the guitar and drums and that he had come from a broken home. They shared a lot about themselves, so much so that Megan started to like him. However, Evans never bothered to share his contact information, and this was really sketchy to Tina. When Megan asked him for his phone number, he claimed that he didn’t have a cell phone and that his mother didn’t have a landline yet.8 Tina was hesitant about Evans, and she even went to the police department to figure out whether he was real, but nothing could be known.9

On Sunday, October 15, 2006, Megan received a disturbing message from Josh:

“I don’t know if I want to be friends with you anymore, because I’ve heard that you are not very nice to your friends.”10

Confused, Megan responded,

“What are you talking about?”11

But Josh never responded.12

The following day, Megan handed out invitations to her fourteenth birthday party. At the end of the day, she rushed back home to check if Josh had responded to her last message. Instead, she found out that he was sending her upsetting messages, and he was sharing their messages with others online. Tina, who was in a rush to get to work, saw that her daughter was really upset and told her to sign off, but Megan didn’t listen. Instead, she fought back using vulgar language.13

Later, when Tina called her daughter and asked her if she had signed off, Megan said,

“They are all being so mean to me.”14

Tina insisted that Megan sign off the website. Fifteen minutes later, Megan called her mother crying.

“They are posting bulletins about me. Megan is a slut. Megan Meier is fat.”15

Most people think of bullying as a childhood issue children will outgrow, but bullies are growing up and entering university campuses. Bullying refers to unwanted, violent, and unnecessary behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or observed power inequality. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, excluding someone from a group, and sending embarrassing messages to another person. Bullying can occur in person or through technology, and it has serious and enduring negative effects on the mental health and overall well-being of youth. Bullying includes those who bully others and those who are bullied, as well as those who both bully others and are bullied by others, sometimes referred to as bully-victims.16

Savannah, on left, thinking “I wish my teammates would accept me.” Sophie, on right, thinking, “I want to talk to someone about kids pushing me around at school.” | October is National Bullying Prevention Month | Courtesy of Air Force Material Command

The negative consequences of bullying may include depression, anxiety, involvement in interpersonal violence or sexual violence, substance abuse, poor social functioning, and poor school performance, including lower grade point averages, standardized test scores, and poor attendance. Youths who report frequently bullying others and youths who report being frequently bullied are at increased risk for suicide-related behavior. Youths who report both bullying others and being bullied (bully-victims) have the highest risk for suicide-related behavior of any group involved in bullying.17

Technology has become a big part of young people’s lives and it plays an increasingly important role in their day-to-day activities. However, it has also become a platform for so many young people to bully each other. Cyber-bullying has become a serious problem for university students and can cause long-term effects on victims. Avenues for cyber-bullying include emails, blogs, text messages, and social networking sites such as Facebook, MySpace, WhatsApp, Instagram, and Twitter.18

Tina was angry at Megan for not listening to her and using vulgar language. Megan was furious at her for not taking her side, so she left the room yelling at her mom. As Tina got ready to eat dinner, she had this gut feeling that something was wrong. When she rushed to her daughter’s room, she found her hanging from her closet and immediately called the neighbor to perform CPR before rushing Megan to the hospital. However, Megan was pronounced dead the following day.19

After Megan’s death, her family sought a grief counselor to deal with the trauma of losing their daughter. When Megan’s dad, Rob, went to her MySpace account to see who this “Josh Evans” was, he saw that Josh had deleted his account and vanished into thin air. Even the FBI couldn’t trace where the messages came from. It wasn’t until a month later that the Meiers discovered who was responsible for their child’s death. One of their neighbors, Michele Mulford, told the Meiers that Curt and Lori Drew, who lived four houses down, had created “Josh” with their daughter Sara, a longtime friend of Megan’s. Even Mulford’s own daughter, also thirteen, had been given the password to the account and had sent at least one unkind message to Megan in Josh’s name. Unfortunately, when the Meiers took the Drews to trial, the law could not prosecute them and Megan’s death was ruled a suicide.20

Image of Cyberbullying | June 8, 2013, | Courtesy of Wikimedia Commons

Suicide, from the Latin word suicidium, is the act of taking one’s own life. Suicide is the second leading cause of death among teenagers in the United States and has become a growing concern. Suicide affects all teens, but some groups are at higher risk than others. Boys are more likely than girls to die from suicide. Of reported suicides in the 10 to 24 age group, 81% of deaths were males and 19% were females. Girls, however, are more likely to report attempting suicide than boys, a number likely to double up in the LGBTQ community.21

Cultural variations in suicide rates also exist. Native American/Alaskan Native youth have the highest rates of suicide-related fatalities, and a nationwide survey of youths in grades 9-12 in public and private schools in the United States found Hispanic youths were more likely to report attempting suicide than their black and white, non-Hispanic peers. Several factors can put a young person at risk for suicide: a history of previous suicide attempts, a family history of suicide, a history of depression or other mental illnesses, alcohol or drug abuse, stressful life events or loss, and easy access to lethal methods. However, having these risk factors does not always mean that suicide will occur.22

The Meiers were devastated by their daughter’s death but had to keep going. Tina and Rob got a divorce, and in December 2007, Tina launched the Megan Meier Foundation, a nonprofit organization against bullying that offers day-long workshops to more than 280,000 students, parents, and educators across 36 states. In August 2007, Tina opened the Megan Meier Foundation Resource Center in St. Charles, Missouri, which offers free counseling, assistance and support to kids who’ve been bullied and their families.23

Tina Meier speakers about bullying to parents | Courtesy of Flickr

“This started out of such tragedy,” she said, “then it became this passion and ultimately a mission I went into with full force.”24

  1. Lauren Collins, “Friend Game,” New Yorker, January 2008, 34-35.
  2. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22,  2014,
  3. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22,  2014,
  4. Joseph Bednar, “Screen pass should young teens be active in social media?” Business West, (2017): 27-29, 36.
  5. Joseph Bednar, “Screen pass should young teens be active in social media?” Business West, (2017): 27.
  6. K. Y, “Social Media and Teens,” School Library Journal 64, no.10 (2018): 1-2.
  7. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  8. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  9. Lauren Collins, “Friend Game,” New Yorker, January 2008, 37.
  10. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  11. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  12. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  13. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  14. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  15. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story,” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  16. P.P.Tsorai, T.J.Mudau, Nanga Raymond Raselekoane “Gender differences in cyber-bullying among first-year University of Venda students,” Gender and Behavior, no. 3 (2019): 13848.
  17. “Bullying And Suicide.” In Teen Health Series: Suicide Information for Teens, edited by Keith Jones. 3rd ed. Omnigraphics, Inc., 2017.
  18. “Bullying And Suicide,” In Teen Health Series: Suicide Information for Teens, edited by Keith Jones. 3rd ed. Omnigraphics, Inc., 2017.
  19. Abigayle Korinne, “Cyberbullying: Megan Meier’s Story” Hubpages, October 22, 2014,
  20. Lauren Collins, “FRIEND GAME” New Yorker, January 2008, 38-41.
  21. “Suicide Among LGBT Youth,” In Teen Health Series: Suicide Information for Teens, edited by Keith Jones. 3rd ed. Omnigraphics, Inc., 2017.
  22. “Teen Suicide Statistics,” In Teen Health Series: Suicide Information for Teens, edited by Keith Jones. 3rd ed. Omnigraphics, Inc., 2017.
  23. Jeff Truesdell, “Finding Hope After My Daughter’s Suicide,” People 87, no.19 (2017): 74-75.
  24. Jeff Truesdell, “Finding Hope After My Daughter’s Suicide,” People 87, no.19 (2017): 74-75.

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Recent Comments

Hailey Lechuga

It is extremely saddening yet very important to address stories like Megan’s. As time goes by and society increasingly grows more and more dependent and active on different social media platforms, cyberbullying is made that much easier. It is a tragic reality that now every parent must face, but it is a powerful and inspiring thing that people like Megan’s mother are devoted to bring awareness and offer consolation to victims.



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Maria Ferrer

It is heartbreaking to see that young girls such as Megan had to deal with cyberbullying or any other negative aspects of social media. Nobody should have to go through something like that. I don’t understand why something like social media, which could help keep in touch with friends and family, is used to hurt other people. It is great to see that Megan’s mom is creating awareness, and she is helping families that are going through similar processes.



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Erika Longoria

We have seen the emergence of social media bring light to the good and bad sides of people. Social media allows for multiple people around the world to be in contact with one another. Unfortunately, this makes it that much easy for cyberbullying to occur across these platforms. No one should have to go through what Megan experienced. It is absolutely heartbreaking to know so many young people are affected by cyberbullies. Megan’s mother is one of the few bringing awareness and helping/supporting those families who have become victims of this terrible thing. It is such an amazing and inspiring thing Megan’s mother is doing.



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Claire Saldana

It’s very scary how many stories that are exactly like this are out there. Social media as the author stated can have its benefits but it seems to do more bad than good. It’s very sad to hear that those few mean words pushed Megan to do what she did. It’s even harder to swallow that she was so young and yet she was able to hang herself. Suicide has become a common topic on many TV shows and movies that it has been romanticized. I think as a teenager or even younger its very hard to see these things and have the strength to ignore it. As a society we have work to stop these deaths based on mean words posted online by someone hiding behind a screen. It starts with accountability with our friends and family.



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Natalia Ramirez

It is so sad to read stories like these, especially when someone takes their life due to social media. Social media can in fact be extremely toxic these days. I know of a lot of people that use social media just to be mean, and I find it so disgusting. Bullying is not okay, and there should be more awareness to avoid situations like Megan’s. I think it is great that her mom launched an organization against bullying.



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Makayla Soto

The media and social life nowadays is so toxic. The fact that she had it so young is sad because you’re easier to influence since your brain is still developing and you’re just starting a new era of your life. Social media most of the time is just used in negative ways, to bash people, hate people, etc. Her getting bullied for absolutely no reason on social media is devastating, especially so young.



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Franchesca Tinacba

It breaks my heart every time I hear a story like Megan’s. Yes, social media is fun and entertaining. I would be lying if I said I don’t take my study break to TikTok or Youtube. However, I feel as though social media is a platform for many individuals to attack others. It is easier to say things through a screen rather than face-to-face. These bullies feel invisible. I hope stories like this article reach to parents and adults who can teach younger generations that bullying is wrong and can lead to serious consequences. With social media on the rise, this only could mean bullying might rise with it.



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Seth Roen

It is sad that something that social media is meant to connect people can and is used in such a cruel way. And is seems to get worst because of the lack of face-to-face interactions, allowing people to act in what they think is impunity. However, it is good to see a movement against this rather sad trend, of bully someone to death online.



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Idaly Oropeza

Great article! Social media and the internet in general can be extremely beneficial. However many people take advantage of it and go past limits to hurt others feelings. Bullying and cyber bullying is a very big social issue that has gone too far. Megan’s situation is very upsetting to read about. Megan was way too young to have felt so much pain that lead her to end her life. I feel that Megans story should be heard and be advocated for more than it is.



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Guadalupe Altamira

Great article on such a tragic story. I have not heard of this story before and it’s great that this is out for those going through something or experiencing something similar. The internet has expanded and become the main usage for people since the start of the pandemic. Cyberbullying is just as bad as bullying in real life. The parent’s reality of this must have been tragic.



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